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Why you Should Definitely Let your Kids Write your Online Dating Profile
By Ken Solin
Most seniors consider writing an online dating profile an unpleasant chore at best. And even though I’m a writer, I wasn’t particularly thrilled penning my own profile when I dated online. Maybe it’s because as seniors we feel we shouldn’t have to explain who we are to anyone any longer, or perhaps we just find the process too tedious.
So how can a senior dater take some of the sting out of performing this annoying, albeit totally necessary task? Simple, have your adult son or daughter write it for you. Sure, you’re shifting the responsibility for explaining who you are, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Plus, they’re usually more tech-savvy and can really help you showcase your personality online, as only Generation Y can.
Here are a few more reasons to let your children write your online dating profile for you:
They’ve Known you Since they were Born
Your children probably know you in a way you may not even know yourself. After all they’re the direct result of all the love and energy you poured into them. They are likely far better suited to explain how loving you are than you may feel comfortable putting in writing, in part because few of us want to appear egotistical, and in part because we just may not know how much to blow our own horn. Frankly, I never expected my son, whom I single parented, to appreciate my efforts. That he did has been a welcome bonus. Raising our children was something most seniors did with little thought about payback, but asking for help writing your online dating profile seems a fair quid pro quo.
They’re Probably Dating Online Too
If your kids are in their 20s or 30s, they may be dating online themselves. So they know the ins and outs of this type of online experience, they know which sites would be best for seniors, and they can give you helpful tips when it comes to your profile. In addition they can show you how to answer email invitations since they spend so much time texting and are masters at brevity. And they might offer insight into invitations they feel you should ignore. You can exchange awkward first date stories and bond over funny chats What more can you ask for?
They Could have Fun with It
Dating should be fun, so what’s better than giving your children some bandwidth to come up with a totally creative, fresh take on their parent? Let them go wild, take cute pictures of you, write you an awesome bio about your latest trip to Europe. They might write about something brave you did, like when you went to school to stand up for your unwillingness to follow the crowd. Or the generosity of spirit you demonstrated when your child was ill and you cancelled a vacation. These are qualities senior daters seek and find attractive.
They Have your Best Interest at Heart
If you’re close enough with your kids to ask them for help, then it’s safe to assume there’s lots of family love going on. So you can bet that they’ll be able not only to write a loving online dating profile for you, but also one that speaks highly of you and shines a light on your best qualities. What more could you ask for?
It Makes it More Interesting
Personal stories capture daters’ attention. Just imagine you’re a senior dater and while you’re cruising a dating site you notice a profile that begins, “My mom/dad is the most amazing person I’ve ever met.” No matter their photo or interests, you’re likely to want to read what makes this man or woman so special. And what if the profile also noted, “My mom/dad has the biggest heart and has the most compassion for others I’ve ever seen.” Or, “Nothing ruffles my mom/dad’s feathers because he/she is the most patient, caring person I’ve had the good fortune to know”. Now that’s powerful stuff.
Asking for Help
I think that for many seniors asking their children to write their profile would be difficult if not impossible. Most seniors like to appear competent, so asking for dating help could feel like a high hurdle to jump. And some seniors might struggle to share their dating concerns because they feel anxious asking for help in an arena many prefer to keep private.
But I urge seniors for whom writing an online profile is an unappealing or difficult task to ask their adult children for help. It might just be requesting some input, or it could be writing the entire profile. I urge challenged seniors to ask their children for help, because unless you’re an Angelina Jolie or George Clooney lookalike your profile needs to sparkle. So call your son or daughter and ask for help. Few will decline.
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