I’ve lost track of the number of times senior men and women have told me they felt it was okay to lie about age in their online dating profiles. If I had to give a percentage to seniors who believe...
Why You're Never Not Too Old to Try Online Dating
By Ken Solin
There’s some major truth in the old bromide that you’re only as old as you feel. At seventy, I’m still going strong. I write every day, I’m learning to be a voice actor, I’m in a sweet, loving relationship, I have a half dozen friends I’m in constant contact with, I go to the gym five days a week, and I have a life outside of my relationship.
Frankly, I just don’t have time to think about feeling old, and if I did have more time I wouldn’t waste it pondering getting older. No matter how old you are, you still have a life ahead of you, and if you’re divorced or widowed you’ve probably thought about not spending it alone. That’s a good first step.
Nothing Is Out Of Reach
Assuming you’ve taken reasonably good care of yourself, there’s little that’s out of your reach, and that includes falling in love with someone you meet online. Your activity level typically reflects your energy and verve for life. If you’re incredibly active then you’re on a good path, and if you’re not, it’s never too late to get on that path. There are lots of activities you probably enjoy, but you’ll enjoy them more with someone you met and fell in love with. Sharing activities with a lover is one definition of joy.
The Secret Glue That Holds It Together
There’s no expiration date for sex. While television is filled with commercials for Viagra and Cialis that typically portray younger couples, their products do in fact work for seniors. Sex takes many forms, from cuddling to intercourse, and everything in between. Sex is the glue that holds relationships together on a physical level, and no matter how old a couple, it still brings lots of physical and emotional benefits. And since very few seniors are interested in casual sex, it’s likely that dating online is your best chance to meet a life partner with whom you can enjoy sex. For many seniors sex is reason enough to date.
Take Matters Into Your Own Hands
The older seniors become the fewer their chances to be introduced to someone special by friends. Seniors have to assume the responsibility for meeting a life partner, and online dating is the fastest, easiest, most direct method for accomplishing this. There are men and women dating online that are 80 plus, and many are meeting new love interests. It doesn’t happen every day, but it happens often enough to make it a real possibility. What’s certain is that if you don’t try, you won’t find love.
No Special Skills Required
If you’re spending much of your time at home alone you might want to consider building up the courage to put yourself online to date. In a recent survey sixty percent of seniors over fifty reported they’re lonely, but this can be remedied with a little effort. Few over 50s are still uncomfortable going online, and most have at least basic computer skills, which is all that’s needed to date online successfully.
There Are Alternatives to Dinner Alone
Before I met my partner dinner alone was typical except when I went out with friends, and whether or not every dinner out with a date was memorable, nearly all were more fun than eating alone. It’s emotionally unhealthy to sit at your kitchen table eating dinner alone every night. If you join a dating site your chances of dining out at a restaurant or at your date’s home increase exponentially. No one is too old to share a dinner with a sweetheart.
When I dated, I felt like a teenager again. My spirits soared and my heart raced when I met someone new online. And while I went on a myriad of dates before I met my partner, I also made some new friends whose company I still enjoy. If you feel young at heart and your spirits can still soar, you’re not only datable, you’re desirable. The old chestnut that there’s someone for everyone isn’t wrong. Many seniors will find love again or for the first time, dating online. It’s your best bet.
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