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The Do's and Don'ts of Flirting for Singles Over 50
By Ken Solin
Flirting in your 50s looks a whole lot like flirting when we were younger, with a few exceptions. Nothing makes a man or woman feel more desirable than to be flirted with, and the more shameless the flirting - the better it feels. I’ve been in a terrific relationship for three years, but I still appreciate and enjoy a woman flirting with me at the supermarket or in a café. And while I typically respond with a smile, I let it go at that because my ego has been satisfied without affecting my relationship. It just feels good to know you still have it.
What are the exceptions for the over 50 crowd? Here are the do’s and don’ts of flirting for seniors:
The DON’Ts Of Over 50 Flirting
1. Don’t Forget Your Manners
Don’t flirt aggressively, which means that it’s rude to flirt in any manner other than casual. If your smile isn’t returned that doesn’t mean you should become more aggressive. It means you need to walk away.
2. Don’t Overstate the Meaning
Don’t take a returned smile as anything other than appreciation or at most, casual interest. Over 50 singles shouldn’t become overly attached to flirting, and it should only be exhibited under the right circumstances that allow it to be accepted or ignored without the potential for bad feelings. Flirting should be fun, not a definitive statement of interest.
3. Don’t Focus Solely On Flirting
Don’t put all of energy into flirting as the best way to meet someone special. While it may become the door to a new, long-term relationship, the odds are against it because the odds are against any new relationship going the distance no matter how or where it began. Just enjoy flirting for what it is, an appreciation for the physical qualities a man or a woman has that you feel attracted to.
The DO’s Of Over 50 Flirting
1. Smile, Smile, Smile
There’s nothing wrong with flirting, and it’s good to remember that it’s actually an art that can be practiced to improve. It’s best when flirting is done in a subtle manner, which means a smile, because no one will be offended by a smile even if they’re not interested or available. A warm smile is best, as opposed to a lurid one. The idea is to attract, not repel.
2. Take It Easy
If your flirting smile isn’t returned than accept that the man or woman you flirted with just isn’t interested. Flirting is always a risk, in terms of being welcomed or not, so flirt with the feeling that whatever happens is okay. It’s rare to flirt with someone and end up in a long-term relationship, but the possibility exists, and since attraction is critical, it’s not a bad place to begin a relationship.
3. Flirt Within the 10 Years Age Range
If you’re over 50, it’s smart to flirt with men or women within 10 years either way of your age. It’s smart because your chances of successfully making a real contact will increase if the man or woman you’re flirting with feels comfortable about your ages being close. And since over 50s flirt to meet someone for a special relationship as opposed to just for sex, a wide age gap won’t work as well.
Seniors should feel free to flirt with anyone who isn’t with a partner or a date, and always with the attitude that while it’s just for fun it may lead to something special.
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