I’ve lost track of the number of times senior men and women have told me they felt it was okay to lie about age in their online dating profiles. If I had to give a percentage to seniors who believe...
The Senior Women Guide For Online Dating
By Ken Solin
Nearly every senior woman I’ve ever date coached expressed her concerns about being able to date successfully online. Their comments derive from experience, so I won’t try to paint a rosy picture about how easy it can be for senior women to date men their age online. That would be insensitive and not authentic.
But do the odds really predict your chances for meeting a life partner near your age online? Perhaps, but your outcome doesn’t have to follow that path. Senior men have mixed feelings about dating senior women, and their reasons are varied and often erroneous, so knowing in advance how to reach those men can close the age gap involved.
Suggest Youthfulness: Make certain your online profile clearly states that your chronological age and your physical and emotional ages are very different aspects of the woman you are. One way to get this point across is to write about your physical activities, such as hiking, swimming, taking long walks, playing golf or tennis, and any other activities that suggest you’re in good shape.
Mention Sexuality: Most senior men still have sexual fantasies, and while many are about younger women, there are an ample number open to all ages. But be certain to mention sex in a manner that your are comfortable with and fits your parameters. Suggest that you’re still a sexual woman, but within the confines of a committed relationship, and that you value that physical and emotional connection.
Be Attractive: This doesn’t mean being anything or anyone other that the woman you already are. What it means is that posting terrific photos is critical. Your photo is your hook, and poor ones will mostly likely not attract men of any age. A smile is absolutely required, and the bigger and more confident it comes across, the better.
Be Proactive: Send emails to all the senior guys you’re interested in regardless of their stated age preferences. If your photo is appealing and your profile story is interesting you’ll find some successes mixed in with rejections.
Don’t Look Desperate: Don’t compare yourself to younger women in your profile or your emails to men. Be sufficiently comfortable with the woman you are to just share yourself in as much detail as you feel works. A comparison with younger women will nearly always fail, as you will not act as yourself but as someone else.
Don’t Be Reactive: Don’t wait for your inbox to fill up. Be proactive not reactive since most senior men who express younger age preferences won’t be emailing you anyway. If your photo and profile are attractive most senior guys will take the time to consider you as a potential date.
Don’t Rush: Don’t appear to be totally focused on getting into a relationship. You want to be subtle about your desire to be partnered, which doesn’t mean being anything other than completely honest. Just don’t put the rush on a guy because we don’t usually feel comfortable with that.
Never Surrender: Finding your compatible partner will take time and most likely, it won’t be the first date you meet online either. Don’t ever give up. Keep in mind that new members are joining senior dating sites every day, so the opportunity to meet a good guy continues to exist. Don’t become defeated just because you haven’t found Mr. Right yet.
Online Dating Works
I met my partner online a few years ago. She’s three years younger than me, and I can’t imagine being in a relationship with a woman any younger. She’s in shape, which appeals to me, and while she wears little makeup, she dresses in stylish clothing that she buys in consignment shops. She never dresses like a teenager.
In the end, senior women need unlimited stamina and courage to continue dating online. But online dating does work for too many senior women to consider it a waste of time. Your chances of beating the odds are very much in your own hands.
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