I’ve lost track of the number of times senior men and women have told me they felt it was okay to lie about age in their online dating profiles. If I had to give a percentage to seniors who believe...
Newsflash For Senior Men Dating Younger Women
By Ken Solin
The motivation that drives senior men to pursue women is primal and social. Men are hunters. Senior men are physically capable of starting second families, albeit with younger women, but the reverse doesn’t quite work. Honestly, before a senior guy starts a second family he might want to consider all the ramifications. But the point of this article isn't about fairness, but rather that so many senior men date younger women exclusively, which relegates a vast number of incredible boomer women to wondering if or when men will ever get what they're missing not dating women their age.
Most Of Us Want Sex
Senior men and women are eager to satisfy their sexual desires, particularly after long sexual dry spells in bad relationships. But women are more controlled in terms of their desire for an emotional component before becoming sexual again. Their goal is a relationship, and while most men want that too, they’re more reluctant to commit quickly.
Exceeding The Limits
I've known many senior men who were still attempting to extend their casual sex years beyond their physical capabilities and mostly failing. Their efforts are nearly always with younger women because that’s who fuels their sexual fantasies. There shouldn’t be any questions regarding why older guys date younger women, but it isn’t true for all senior guys. At seventy I'm enjoying the best sex of my life with my sixty six-year-old partner. Incredible sex is heart-driven, not head-driven. Moreover, it is less likely to develop deep intimacy with such a big age gap, resulting in a meaning of emptiness, where only physical attraction can stimulate the relationship.
Closing The Gap
There is a frequent misunderstanding between what senior men and women expect from each other when it comes to dating. Men are interested in relationships, but there are so many more choices for men than women, particularly online,. And for that reason, a man can easily feel like a kid in a candy store who wants to sample every sweet. Ask any senior woman who dates online about the quality of available men, and many insist that only a few measure up to their basic needs. Some further contend that all the good men are already in relationships, and those available are the leftovers. I disagree about the quality of available men, and I hear similar comments about senior women from senior men. But there are more available women than men online.
Men are also driven to be in relationships because they don't want to be alone. I've worked with men in small groups for a quarter century, and many consider solitude unbearable. Every boomer woman who dates knows that most senior men can't be alone for long. And what makes men’s situations worse is that few have close men friends to hang out with and talk to. This is the tail wagging of the dog in terms of why men date.
Since men seem to be driving the senior dating world, at least in number control, it would help men to realize the wonderful possibilities that exist with women their age. What I've learned from a decade of dating is that senior women have far more emotional, sexual and intellectual depth than their younger counterparts.
Senior Women Are Solid Gold
Senior women have made their marks in the world and spent a lifetime perfecting them. This makes them rich in the critical experiences that match senior men far better than younger women. It's about character women develop through their life struggles as mothers, daughters, career women and intimate friendships that makes them such rewarding partners. A man who seeks a life partner would be smart to choose an age appropriate woman. And the notion that a woman's life experiences become her emotional baggage is nonsense. Strength of character is the result of those experiences. If you are a man who is looking for a partner to share your life with, you’d be foolish not to choose someone who’s closer to your age group.
The Perfect Place To Meet
There's a terrific meeting place for senior men and women, and it’s online. I met my partner online a few years ago. Both of us dated online for years and had plenty of coffee dates, but neither of us ever met the one. Our meeting each other suggests that persistence and stamina pay off. While online dating is far from being perfect, it’s the closest thing to the proverbial candy store for senior men and women.
So what are you waiting for? Sign up for one of the Dating Sites for Seniors today!