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Do Senior Online Dating Sites Live Up To The Hype?
By Ken Solin
There are a number of questions single seniors might have about the ubiquitous online dating hype. Dating websites make it seem as if signing up is nearly a guaranty you’ll meet the man or woman of your dreams. Whether or not that’s entirely true, what is true is that if you don’t date online your chances of meeting your life partner are seriously limited.
We All Know People Who Know People
We’ve all met couples that gladly tell us they met online. Perhaps your best friend just met his or her new partner online and their enthusiasm is senior dating websites’ best advertisement. Television programs frequently feature online dating stories in their lifestyle reports that portray couples clearly in love that met online. Online advertising for senior dating sites is everywhere, in fact, so much so that you may feel you’re the only single senior not signed up for a senior dating site or not in a relationship.
Okay, that’s the hype. So what’s the reality? Actually, they’re frequently one and the same, but a focused effort is required on your part if you want the hype to become your reality. Online dating sites are a senior’s best bet to meet a life partner. The number of single seniors online alone are staggeringly high and growing. Approximately seven million single seniors in the US are dating online according to AARP. While it once took some computer skills to navigate senior dating sites, that’s no longer true. Dating sites are user friendly and easy to use, and all provide informative tutorials on how to easily create a dating profile. Match.com, the most popular site for senior dating has a whole help section dedicated to make your online journey a simple one.
But online problems still abound, particularly for newly single seniors who don’t have the dating experience that more experienced seniors have, to date successfully. There’s no worse feeling in life than being a newbie at something when everyone around you seems to already excel at it. But getting up to speed quickly enough to meet a life partner isn’t rocket science, and it’s not all about luck either.
How To Succeed
Successful online dating needs to be inwardly driven, and while senior daters have to fit into certain parameters like age and body types, there’s no reason to be anyone other than the person you really are in order to date successfully. An inauthentic approach won’t succeed because you’ll be stuck trying to be someone other than the real you. In truth, the majority of senior daters are just as nervous and unskilled as you are, and the person they’d most like to meet is someone honest enough to admit it.
A Huge Number
The number of senior singles who are dating online creates rich opportunities, and in that regard, the hype is entirely true. While the numbers of available single men are smaller than single women, they’re not sufficiently unequal to pose an insurmountable obstacle.
The Hype Depends On Proactivity
But all the single seniors on dating sites combined won’t necessarily prove helpful unless you’re willing to be proactive. Waiting for your inbox to fill up is not proactive. You’ll only see the men or women who contact you, which is likely to be a small percentage of the website’s available senior singles. But being proactive requires single seniors to follow some simple, basic guidelines.
Know What You Are Looking For
First and foremost, you have to be able to zero in on the type of man or woman you’re seeking, which is about far more than just their physical appearance. We’ve all been in the company of couples who met online and are in love. And while the physical aspect of a relationship may keep a young couple together for a long while, seniors require much more than that. Sure, seniors are enjoying sex well into their eighties today, but they’re also emotionally seasoned and know what works for them. In order to ensure you meet a true-life partner, single seniors need to choose potential dates based on their emotional and physical health, interests shared and individual, intelligence, geography, and more.
Like millions of other seniors I met my partner online, but only after I expanded my physical parameters. She looks nothing at all like the women I had dated, and in fact I didn’t look like her typical guy either. But we met, felt a strong attraction, fell in love, and are a joyful couple.
You don’t have to create your online dating profile now. Take some time to think if you are emotionally available to meet new people online. For more senior dating information take a look at the many other articles on this website. Good luck in your search.