I’ve lost track of the number of times senior men and women have told me they felt it was okay to lie about age in their online dating profiles. If I had to give a percentage to seniors who believe...
5 Ways Women Over 50 Can Grab a Guy's Attention Online
By Ken Solin
There’s lots of talk about online dating being a waste of time for seniors, and since there are significantly more women than men online, women seem to complain the most about the challenges of online dating. But it’s not a waste of time, and the proof is the large number of men and women that meet online and fall in love.
Since women are most challenged by online dating because of their greater numbers, here are 5 helpful ways you ladies can grab a guy’s attention online.
1. Smile on Your Profile Photo
The issue of online profile photos has been talked about extensively, and with good reason. Many women still post grim-faced and unsmiling photos. The very first item on the agenda with my date coaching clients is to have a friend take some new photos of them, all smiling. Also, at least one full-length photo is appropriate since daters have a right to see whom they’re dating. The same applies to men’s photos.
2. “I’ll Tell You Later" Is a No-No
With the exception of income, which is too personal to mention in an online profile, women should never check the,
3. Be Original and Keep It Fresh
Everyone likes to walk on the beach and drink a glass of wine by the fire. So how can a woman be original? Instead of writing about your last five travel destinations, pick your favorite and describe in detail how you’d share it with someone special. Write about a fabulous restaurant you enjoyed. It’s also critical that you update your profile every few months to keep it fresh, including new photos. Your inbox will fill up again because men think you’re new to the site.
4. Talk About Your Hobbies
Assuming you’re not a couch potato and that you participate in a variety of activities, mention each in detail, and don’t forget, always within the context of sharing it with someone special. Remember to be inclusive when you write about skiing, tennis, going to the theater, participating in community-theater, drives in the country, indie films, favorite restaurants, a passion for cooking, and any other activity you enjoy. Season tickets to the symphony or opera are also good hooks.
5. Don’t Play Games
If a man emails you and mentions some aspect of your profile that caught his attention, he’s likely interested in you and not just trolling. He took the time to read about you, which is a good sign. Answer him without hesitation because playing games regarding how long to wait to respond is better suited to twenty-year olds. And when you have your first phone conversation if you like what you hear, don’t be shy about suggesting a coffee date.
Trust Your Instinct
While there is no guarantee that these 5 tips will result in a date, they do increase your chances for success. Trust your instincts about the men you meet. If your coffee date doesn’t feel comfortable and friendly, walk away and get back online. Chemistry can’t be ignored. A guy that shows up for a date looking cool probably made an effort to appear attractive, so it’s smart to mention how nice he looks. Obviously the reverse also applies. Don’t give up when you feel emotionally fatigued, but take a break for a few days or weeks to recharge.
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