The Full Online Dating Guide for Lesbian Women Over 40


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Many lesbian women over 40 today look younger than their age, feel healthy, and are as active as they were when they were in their 30s. However, mentally and emotionally, they are in a different, more mature place than they were a decade ago, and this manifests itself in many ways. Their needs and desires are different to a twenty year olds and should be represented accordingly on online dating websites in order to get their desired results. The following is a list of advice and tips that every woman over 40 who wants to utilize online dating to her benefit should read. Knowing what to expect is the key to success!

1. Don’t Rush it

You may feel like you have no time left and must hurry to find your perfect match. However, this might be the biggest mistake you can make. More and more lesbians are signing up to online dating websites and just like you, are searching for a potential partner to spend their lives with. The best thing you can do that will attract the right one is to focus on being happy, satisfied and accomplished, and to let that manifest in your profile (see number 3). Don’t be quick to compromise on what you want in your significant other. Online dating sites are great in that they widen your pool of available lesbians, so there are plenty of fish in your sea.

2. How to Meet Lesbian Women over 40 Online

Mature lesbians online can be found either in sites that cater to all lesbians or sites that focus specifically on lesbian dating over 40. Whichever site you sign up for, you will be able to tell women’s’ age by looking at their profile. You can also filter women by conducting a custom search according to who is online right now, or based on eye color, hair color, smoking, religion, interests, and others. As chances are that you know exactly what you want - and maybe more importantly, what you DON’T want - a customs search feature comes in quite handy for lesbian women over 40.

3. How to Present Yourself in your Profile

Oftentimes, the first few things a woman notices on another woman’s profile is her picture, her age, and her location. If these turn out to be attractive enough, that woman will read on and find out what her hobbies are, her interests, and other handy information about her. To set up your profile in a way that best attracts the kind of women you are looking for, choose an attractive and recent picture of yourself. List all your hobbies and interests in short, so as to leave something for the imagination. You don’t want to be too open about yourself and should elaborate only after receiving responses from women who want to know more about you and who have passed your inspection. Be witty, humorous, and light in your profile; profiles are not meant for heavy and meticulous reading and should be attractive, fun, and to the point.

4. What to Look For in a Profile

A woman’s profile will have all sorts of information on her that can signal if she has what it takes to become your potential partner. It’s just as important to note what is not listed in her profile. For example, if you are the athletic type that loves the outdoors and goes hiking every weekend, a profile that mainly lists indoor hobbies should be inspected further. Chances are she isn’t into the same things as you are, but emailing her about it and making sure is a good strategy to know more, if in all other areas she has caught your interest.

Be Ready to be Contacted by Younger Lesbians

There are lesbian online dating sites for every age, and younger lesbians looking for a serious commitment might feel like a more mature lesbian is the right match for them. Dating a younger woman has consequences and when one is looking for a long-term relationship, this kind of partnership should not be headed into lightly. How you choose to address this issue is entirely up to you and your needs and desires, but be prepared that you’ll most likely face this decision at some point in your online dating experience.

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