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From Your Dating Profile To A First Date: Hot Tips For Lesbian Dating
By Top10BestDatingSites Staff
After shuffling through a great amount of profiles and sending dozens of messages, you've finally found a gal that you think could be "the one." But how do you make that transition from chatting online to actually landing that all-important first date? Some of those new to online dating are hesitant before meeting in person, and the last thing you want is to inadvertently encourage them to "fade" on you. As far as first date tips for women go, it's all about making your date feel comfortable and confident.
"I just heard about an Italian place with great reviews around your neighborhood, care to join me on either Friday or Saturday, around 9ish?" is a great example on how set-up that first date. "Coffee sometime?", not so much. Do you really want to sound hesitant when setting up that first date?
Being decisive is one of the most important first date tips for women and men alike. Most people hate making decisions... and, furthermore, many online daters may not be constantly logging into their match.com profile to keep chatting and making plans until you’ve finally decided on where to meet. By being very specific with your invitation, you cut through a lot of the back-and-forth logistics, which could absolutely torpedo a first meet. Being too wishy-washy can give the indication that you aren't very interested or, worse, that you're desperate to please.
Always Offer An Out
It’s always good to offer a few options: "There's a great festival this weekend! Would you like to go with me? Or, if it's too soon for that, I'm fine with continuing to chat here :-)", and NOT "Would you like to go to dinner tomorrow?"
Whether we like it or not, initiating a "rejection" can be just as awkward as receiving one. If your prospective date doesn't feel comfortable meeting you yet, she may feel equally uncomfortable continuing to chat. In fact, she might just “disappear” entirely. That's why you should always offer your date an out. With a blunt request for dinner, your match might just decide to never respond again. And we know, we know - that sucks. But if you think about it, it can make sense from her perspective; she’s just not ready to meet yet, and she assumes that you are, so she might feel the wrong vibes and stop the conversation. With an out, she can continue the conversation normally until she feels ready.
Confirm, Confirm, Confirm
"Good morning! Just want to check to make sure we're still on at 8 tonight", and NOT "I'll see you Tuesday!"
Always confirm both the day before and the morning of a date, and get a phone number rather than just relying on their Zoosk messages. People get busy and they get confused -- you don't want to get stood up just because someone forgot to enter something into their calendar. Moreover, people do sit on the fence about dating. Occasionally, they'll wait until the very last minute to decide whether they want to go. This has nothing to do with you (or even online dating) and everything to do with the nervousness inherent to a first date. By confirming early on, you'll give them the chance to reschedule if they're really not feeling up to it. Just don’t be too pushy and remind them every other hour.
Take Rescheduling With Grace
"Bummer, I was looking forward to it, but I totally understand. Let me know if another time next week would be better for you. I'm free every evening after Wednesday," and NOT “What about later today?" OR "Can we do Friday?"
Sometimes she just has to take a rain check. It doesn't necessarily indicate she isn't interested in meeting you; she might just be extremely busy and the timing is off. Try to accept it with grace and don’t look all needy. In general, if one party cancels, they are responsible for rescheduling. So if your date flakes last minute, she should be the one to suggest the next date and time to meet. If she doesn’t, you can already suspect that she wasn’t likely to show up anyway. Send one message -- or two -- but no more, and never pressure someone to meet if they've indicated there are circumstances (such as a stressful work day or long commute) that they feel are detrimental.
Sometimes dating is really about just avoiding the worst scenarios. Be yourself, stay confident and as long as you can prevent your gal from feeling overwhelmed, anxious or pressured, you'll usually be able to land a great first date at any of the lesbian sites for dating. And the same goes for you: every time you find yourself feeling any negative feelings about the process, just remind yourself that there's always more fish in the sea.
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