How To Meet The Parents: A Guide To Smooth Sailing


How to meet the parents

By Top10BestDatingSites Staff

Ever since you first met your new girlfriend through Compatible Partners, the relationship has progressed really well. It’s developing into something serious and you’re even beginning to think she could be ‘The One’. Evidently, your girlfriend feels the same, because one day out of the blue she drops the bombshell: she’d like to take you home to meet her folks.

At this point you start to worry. Echoes of Greg Focker from the film ‘Meet The Parents’ run through your mind. You fear that this could be the visit from hell that will ruin your perfect relationship together. Visions of lie detectors in the basement and all the disastrous scenarios that could occur invade your thoughts.

Meet the parents – Greg is watching

However, before you go into a full blown panic, here are some helpful tips on how to meet her parents to make it a successful and happy one.

Do Your Homework

Prepping before you meet the parents

Preparation is everything. Before meeting a girlfriend’s parents do some research and ask your girlfriend all about them.

The sort of things you’ll want to find out will include the etiquette upon first meeting them: Should you shake hands or give them a hug when introduced? Should you call them by their first names, or address them more formally to begin with? Check out the dress code. Do her parents dress formally or more casually? Even if it is more casual attire, err on the side of being a bit more conservatively dressed. (You don’t want to dress to shock - at least for the first meeting.)

It’s a good idea to find out in advance their stance on your girlfriend being a lesbian, and whether they're accepting of it?

Another useful thing to learn is what they disliked about any of her previous girlfriends. That will give you an added advantage to show how you are different.

Bringing a gift is always a good idea and will make a good impression. So find out what they like. Make it something small but thoughtful.

Make a Good First Impression – Smile!

Good impressions when meeting girlfriend’s parents

The day of your meeting has arrived. Inevitably, you may still feel a little nervous, even after doing your advanced research. However, you’ll be relieved to know that you’re not the only one. Her family is probably feeling the same way as you. So when you meet them for the first time, smile and be friendly. A smile instantly breaks down barriers.

Find something you appreciate and compliment them on it. Not only will this make them feel good, but it can be a good conversation opener.

In addition, try to find common ground and shared interests. This will give you plenty to talk about, and maybe even help to start forming a bond of friendship between you.

What To Say and Definitely What Not To Say

How to meet her parents - don't blab

First and foremost, try to relax and be yourself. Talk about things that interest you and are passionate about, but don’t overshare. Tell the story of how you first met through, but don’t talk about the intimacies of your relationship.

Asking questions is always a good way to get the conversation flowing - but don’t make them probing ones. Also, remember not to take up too much of the conversation – you don’t want them thinking you’re a chatterbox so early on!

It goes without saying; don’t talk politics or anything controversial. (Check out with your girlfriend in advance if there are any sensitive subjects to avoid.) In addition, don’t get into a debate or involve yourself in family arguments as that will only create a tense atmosphere.

The Do's and Don’ts When You Meet the Parents

Don’t flirt when meeting your girlfriend’s parents

Yes, you love your girlfriend and aren’t afraid to show it. But don’t flirt or get too physical in public around her family and risk making them feel uncomfortable.

If you’re staying for the weekend but aren’t sure whether you’ll both be sleeping in the same room, a sensitive way to find out and avoid awkwardness is simply to ask where to put your bag.

If you’re offered a drink, it’s OK to accept but don’t overdo the alcohol.

Also, stay off your smartphone - even if you’re bored.

Being helpful and friendly will help to create a good impression. So offer to help clear up after the meal or wash the dishes.

Above all, approach the meeting with positivity and an open mind. After all, parents who have produced such an amazing woman as your girlfriend have to be pretty cool themselves.

Now you know how to successfully meet the parents. But if you still need to find the girlfriend, then visit Zoosk to find the love of your life.

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