8 Questions to Help You Get Guaranteed Responses with Lesbian Singles Online


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In the world of lesbian dating websites and lesbian dating apps, it can feel as if you are a small fish in a big ocean; however, that is just not true. These tools offer great features that allow for easy connection and great success. Lesbian dating websites such as Compatible Partners and match.com have chat features so you can start the conversation with your potential match as soon as possible.

There is one unavoidable truth though; it is often hard to fire off that first chat question. For fear of rejection or just having a message resonate with a recipient, many women on lesbian dating websites have a hard time coming up with effective introduction messages.

If you want to make sure that your messages stand out among the rest and ensure that you get a response, try some of the following introductory message ideas and questions.

1. Wait, don’t I know you?

"Hi there! I feel like we might know each other. Have you ever worked at Wray’s Fins and Feathers (insert any random, local hangout)? You look very familiar."

You are almost guaranteed to get a response. No one wants to be rude, especially if they think they might know you. Therefore, if someone is presented with a question like this, they’ll likely respond. Once you’ve got your foot in the door, you can easily spark up a conversation.

2. You like ___ , too?

"Hey, I see you are from Malibu and into surfing. Me, too! Can you recommend any great beaches for novices?"

Not only have you created a personal connection with her, you show that you’ve taken the time to get to know more about her. You know her hobbies, likes and dislikes; you’ve shown that you have already invested some time into establishing a potential relationship with her.

3. Knock, knock?

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"Knock, Knock?" or "A bear walks into a bar and says, ‘Give me a whiskey and cola."

Everyone loves jokes. Besides, who can resist hearing the punch line of a joke? Moreover, it shows that you have a sense of humor. A relevant joke also provides the opportunity to broach areas of shared interests. The aforementioned joke gives you a chance to talk about animals, a potential shared hatred for bartenders, and whiskey.

(In case you desperately wanted to hear the rest of the joke: "’Why the big pause?’ asks the bartender. The bear shrugged. ‘I'm not sure; I was born with them.’")

4. Is that a ___ in your profile picture?

"Is that an Alaskan Malamute in your profile picture? That is the cutest dog, ever!"

Featuring an aspect of someone’s profile picture shows that you are looking at more than their sexy pose. It also provides you an opportunity to engage an important part of their life. For a user to include a pet or a classic car in their profile picture, it means that they found it important enough to make it public.

5. Emoticons!

Using emoticons in your opening message can be a fun and creative way of making your presence known and remembered. It also has the potential of being a great ice – breaker without making yourself too vulnerable for rejection. Most chances are that you will get a positive and humorous response back by using the right emoticons. Lesbian singles websites sites such as BBPeopleMeet and SeniorPeopleMeet have the options of sending emoticon messages to the woman you’re interested in. However, we don’t recommend that you send an emoticon message in place of an original and authentic message written by you; balance is the key, and the best way to use emoticons is by writing a great one liner (such as any of the other examples here!) and throwing in a fun emoticon at the end that adds esthetics to the message visually.

6. What’s your idea of a perfect date?

This question may be bold, but it shows that you are not pussyfooting around. Not only are you asking her on a date, but you are also showing consideration by asking what her idea of a perfect date would be. Much like the aforementioned royal treatment, it is hard to turn down an offer for a "perfect date." It will be up to you to finalize all the details and be attentive to what she wants, but this question will get you a response and your foot in the door.

7. Into current events?

"I noticed from your profile that you’re a movie buff! What did you think about Boyhood winning Best Motion Picture in last night’s Golden Globes?"

A carefully-crafted, current events question allows the receiver to know that the question you just asked them was not one that you’ve used for seventy other girls over the last six months while you look for lesbian singles online.

A current events question will work especially well if you ask a question about a current event that coincides with information provided in her profile. Peruse her bio. If she like cupcakes, ask her if she’s been to the new cupcake shop that just opened up. If she’s a fan of Nicolas Cage, ask her if she’s seen his newest release and invite her on a date.

8. I’m new... can you help me?

"Hey. I am new to the city and wondering, where is the lesbian scene is in New York City?

This question shows that you are confident, serious about dating, and found the recipient of the question worth contacting. Worst-case scenario, you might have found out a new bar or hangout to other potentials new girlfriends.

Now that you are armed with the best questions to ensure a successful online connection, setup your dating profile today!

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