How to Spot and Stay Away from Fake Bisexual Women in Dating Sites

Bisexual women in dating sites stats shock woman

As society becomes more open to the concept of bisexuality, there is an increase in users identifying themselves as bisexual women in dating sites. Statistics, however, show a shocking revelation about these users:

80% of self-identified bisexuals in online dating sites are only interested in one gender.

Statistics speak loads

This result came about by analyzing the behavioral pattern of bisexual users in online dating sites. When looking at bisexual women in particular, there was a very clear fact: most women who described themselves as bisexual messaged either one sex or the other, but not both, as would be expected. Within these, a significant portion of the ladies were solely searching for and corresponding with men.

Needless to say, every individual has their reasons and personal interests regarding their sexuality, but when looking at a pattern followed by over 80% of bisexual users, it’s not a mere coincidence.

Bisexuality is the new “sexy"

So comes the popular trend of fauxmosexuality in online dating – women pretending to identify with lesbian sexuality to look more sexually adventurous and attractive to men. We’ve seen it in its ‘celebrity’ stage for a while, including in the infamous hit by Katy Perry: “I Kissed a Girl", which sky-rocketed her career with her pseudo-bisexuality.

Straight female users also see an upsurge in interest from men by simply defining their sexual orientation as bisexual. Whether they are trying to look more attractive or cause men to fantasize about their sexual openness or the possibility of threesomes, these straight ladies are only targeting men with their profile choices.

That leaves lesbians interested in dating a bisexual woman in a conundrum: how can they tell if a ‘bisexual’ woman on an online dating site is not lying about their orientation to attract men, rather than both sexes?

Man dating a bisexual woman

Spotting the fake bisexuals

Unfortunately, it’s not infrequent for lesbian women looking for love to fall into this ‘scam’ by contacting women who are not interested in any type of lesbian relationship or activity.

Even though there is no sure-fire way of knowing if a user is genuinely bisexual, there are a few clues that could help guide you towards the possible truth.

Evaluate the profile

Scan the profile thoroughly. Is there anything about the information or pictures that could imply that the end goal is to attract male attention by appearing more 'sexually open'? Dating sites like Compatible Partners provide very detailed profiles and if inspected carefully, you should be able to spot a few “hints” that will help you better determine their sexual orientation.

Consider the online dating site

Take into consideration which online dating site you are both using. If, for example, you are both corresponding through one of the numerous lesbian-focused dating sites, it’s far more likely that the profile was not intended to attract a male demographic.

Who initiated contact?

Most dating sites for lesbians provide the option to instant message through your computer or mobile device. If she contacted you, there’s a solid chance that she is genuinely bisexual and interested in getting to know you. That is not to say that if you initiate contact, she is not bisexual, but it clears the air of uncertainty.

Don't discount the power of intuition

Sometimes, your intuition tells you what your mind cannot. If anything seems fishy or worthy of distrust, listen to your intuition, rather than fight it. Small signs may have unconsciously caused your doubt.

Contact them

Don’t let this statistic or label discourage you from contacting someone who looks interesting. They may very well be genuinely bisexual and a good match. Losing an opportunity is not worth the initial distrust or phobia of being rejected by a straight woman. At worst, you will not receive a response, and life moves forward.

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