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Learn How Confidence Helps Avoid Being A Victim of Online Dating Scams
By Top10BestDatingSites Staff
Online dating is booming and that’s true for gay and lesbian online dating, too. However, along with the lure of online love come dating scams. Case in point: you come upon the profile of your absolute dream man. Too good to be true? Maybe. Read on to learn how to build your dating confidence and avoid being the victim of online dating scams.
Confidence is Key
Today, 80% of gay men find long-term relationships online compared to 14 percent 14 years ago. Still, despite its phenomenal success, dating online can bring out your worst fears and insecurities. Why? First because the prevalence of scams is increasing, and second, it’s just tough to put yourself out there amidst scores of other men and face the possibility of rejection. But by shoring up your confidence you can avoid scams and finally find the man of your dreams.
How to Build Your Confidence
Creating your confident self is simpler than you think. Consider:
- Self-talk: It works! Every day, tell yourself you are strong, capable and self-confident. You have tons to offer and anyone would be lucky to be your date.
- Remove the rejection factor. As you peruse through hundreds of profiles and find yourself becoming paralyzed thinking no one will ever like you, turn the table and remember – you are in control: you are the one making the choices.
- Focus on other things. It’s easy to allow your online dating efforts to consume you as you neglect other activities that make you feel good about yourself. Get off the computer and go for a run, cook a gourmet dinner for friends or take your dog for obedience training.
- Take advantage of your dating site’s tools: For example, match.com features its own online magazine chock full of confidence-enhancing advice and ideas.
Avoiding the Dating Scammer
Once your newly-found confidence is intact you’re ready to take on the devious dating scammer. It’s important to select a reputable dating site that protects its members. For example, Zoosk is fiercely committed to protecting daters, both on and off-line. It also encourages users to immediately report dating scams they might encounter. Before selecting a dating site, be sure to check out their safety policies.
Here are some blazing red flags that a scammer’s out to fan your flames.
Study photos. The bottom line is – scammers aren’t real and nor are their profile photos. Be wary of the studio head shot. Also beware of the photo cut in half where there was once another person. Check to see if his photos were grabbed from the Internet by using TinEye. Simply copy and paste the photo in question to TinEye and if he has indeed using a counterfeit shot, dump that scammer in a hurry.
Avoid people who profess their love right away and want to communicate with you off the site. Scammers are notorious for wanting to get their victims off the dating site to avoid being blocked. Also, off-site, the technically savvy scammer can access and retrieve personal data from your computer.
Insist on using webcam. Most scammers avoid using webcams and will concoct every excuse in the book not to: his computer is broken, he looks terrible, he doesn’t have enough time, and so on. Avoid any guy who refuses to be seen.
Check profile text. A very easy exercise to see if he has pilfered profile text from another unsuspecting soul is to copy a chunk and paste it into your search engine. If the picture and profile of another man appears, you have just discovered a scammer.
Be skeptical of poor English skills. The fact is that many scammers hail from overseas – especially Eastern Europe and Western Africa. Your scammer may say he grew up somewhere in the United States, but his English skills belie that fact.
Most importantly, do not give him money! The scammer’s ultimate goal is to finagle money from you. Excuse number one usually involves wanting to see you – desperately – but since he claims to be overseas on a work assignment and his money is tied up, would you please send him money for a plane ticket. To foil his plot, tell him you’ll buy the ticket and watch him squirm. If you do succumb and give him money for the plane ticket, of course, he’ll never arrive but continue badgering you with his future “poor me I need more money” scam.
As a gay man, you already know that safety is paramount for many reasons. The all gay dating site CompatiblePartners offers much more privacy than other sites to minimize your chances of being the victim of online dating scams.