Protect Yourself from Scammers on Gay Dating Websites


It’s no wonder why gay singles are constantly active on the online dating scene. For one, it’s practically free and certainly much cheaper than several first dates at Starbucks. Moreover, it provides the speed dating experience without ever leaving home. Since most men don’t meet in person until they’ve taken a lot of time to get to know each other online, there is sometimes a false sense of security when it comes to online dating.

Top websites like pride themselves on making every effort to create a safe haven for legitimate users by investing in an extensive fraud prevention team and posting online safety guides that are wise to follow.

Despite the best efforts of top gay dating websites like Zoosk, which regularly combat gay dating scams, users looking for love need to maintain constant vigilance against scammers. Scammers and criminals have noticed the rising popularity of gay dating websites and are increasingly targeting users. Here are some ways to avoid getting scammed as you search for the potential love of your life.

Ask Many Questions to Build Your Trust

The online dating arena is jam-packed with gay singles who want to find love and want to find it fast. Relatively speaking, speed is good, but can you really entrust your heart to someone you just met online?

Now that you’ve started to ask the important questions, here are some more to consider: Are you talking to a real person or a con artist using a model’s sensual photo to entice you? Is your dating partner ready to take the relationship out of the virtual online dating arena and get up close and personal? If no, why not? Why is your online boyfriend evasive when it comes to meeting, talking on the phone, or discussing their history?

Use Your Common Sense

Although it should be obvious, it’s very easy to get caught up in the emotions of the moment and for judgment to become clouded when being swooned. Gay romance scams prey on people who are in dire need of feeling loved by another.

Unfortunately, not everyone online has your best interest at heart. Carefully examine their profile for clues that hint at how real they are. Google search their images to check if they show up in any other profile online. Insist on video chatting to ensure they truly are the person in the profile pictures. Typically, the more a profile has been filled out, the better the odds that the man on the other end is a real date, rather than a scammer. Still not sure if their profile is real? Copy and paste their personal bio through Google search and see if their information shows up on other profiles online.

Man on computer keeping safe from gay romance scam

Never Send Any Money

Scammers usually have one main goal in mind: money, your money. To convince you to part ways with your money, they will create an elaborate ruse that starts with enchanting you to fall deeply in love or lust with them. Once a relationship of trust is established, they will attempt to emotionally manipulate you by approaching you with a sad, heartbreaking story and ask you to loan them money to cover the costs.

They will always say that they will pay you back, which they won’t. But if you’re smart enough, do not send them any money – the moment you do so is the moment you have fallen into a scam, and it can be a bottomless pit. As time goes by, the scammer will request larger amounts of money. If at any point, anyone in the dating site asks you to send them money, ban them and report them to the dating site.

Listen to Your Gut

Protect yourself from dating scams on Gay dating sites

The key advice to avoid online scams is to always listen to your gut.

If you are reading someone’s profile after they contact you, and it reads as if it is the man of your dreams, chances are that they custom built it entirely for you. If you notice that their hobbies and interests are eerily similar to yours, be wary and vet them with detailed questions.

If someone seems too good to be true, then there is a good chance that your gut is trying to get you out of harm’s way. Remove yourself from any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable to keep yourself safe from people who don’t have your best interest in mind.

Remember, although getting to know one another is an essential part of online gay dating, be wary of what personal information you are providing. You may feel excited by the attention that you are receiving on the dating site, but keep in mind that people aren’t always who they claim to be online.

Do not share any of your personal information such as social security number, credit card or bank information. Safety is always first and it’s always better to have been mistaken about someone but have nothing happen to you than to go forward with something that might potentially cause you major harm in the process.

Now that you know how to keep safe on gay dating websites, are you ready to take the plunge? Take a look at Manplay and join the online dating game! 

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