The term “Christian" is a broad one. Some people identify as Christian in the social sense of the word; they grew up with Christianity around them, they want a Church wedding – but religion doesn’t play...
Christian Date Sites: The Pressure of a Label
By Top10BestDatingSites Staff
The term “Christian" is a broad one. Some people identify as Christian in the social sense of the word; they grew up with Christianity around them, they want a Church wedding – but religion doesn’t play much of an active role in their daily lives. Others will give themselves the same label, but live a religious life that is guided by their Christian beliefs and values. Christian dating sites tend to reflect this phenomenon in their membership base, and it’s important to understand the range of lifestyles that Christian labels can incorporate.
Online Christian Dating
If you are looking online and know that you want to find a Christian date, then the first thing to do is choose the right dating website as the sort of “Christian label" with which you identify may not be available on every site.
Most of the larger dating websites offer the option to label yourself as “Christian", but within a fairly general framework. The site with the largest membership base is match.com, and it attracts 6 million users each month. Its Christian users can choose between four basic labels: Christian-Catholic, Christian-Protestant, Christian LDS or Christian-Other. Within these labels you also have the option to identify as “spiritual but not religious".
Unsurprisingly, niche Christian date sites tend to have a much larger range of identifying options. ChristianMingle, offers users a selection of more than 20 religious backgrounds with which to identify, which means that Christians looking for a more specific religious match are able to search within a much narrower criteria. The atmosphere and general environment of a Christian dating site can also be geared towards a focus on God; ChristianMingle features daily Bible verses, Bible study and prayer requests, on top of the usual dating website functions such as chat rooms, winks/flirts, and internal messaging.
What Kind of Christian Are You?
A little soul-searching may be required before you fill out a profile as a Christian online dater. You might feel that although you believe in God, ritual observance is not a priority in a potential match. You may feel inspired by your religious life within a particular denomination, and committed to staying within it – or perhaps you might feel that for the “right one" you would be happy to compromise. Try and answer as many questions about yourself as possible, to reduce the possibility of misunderstandings with any matches that you find. Be as honest as you can, so that you are representing that Christian you are, rather than the Christian you like the idea of being.
Finding the Right Match
Once you have seen a potential match who fits the label you are looking for, try and find out the answer to these important questions to minimize confusion:
How often does he/she attend Church?
What denomination was he/she brought up in, and what does he/she identify with now?
How big a part does God play in his or her life?
Does he/she want any physical limits on the relationship?
What does being a Christian mean to him/her?
The broad label of “Christian" encompasses such a vast range of lifestyles, some of which will not be compatible with each other. Whatever your expectations are from a relationship, keep them crystal clear from the outset so that people can read and understand the person behind the label.
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