8 Signs He's Not The One


By Laurel House

Are you online dating because you’re looking for Mr. Right, not just Mr. Right Now?

Not sure if he’s in it for real or just for fun? Here are 8 surprising signs that he might not be the man for you.


1. He neglects the in-betweens

He is into grand gestures and statement-making leaps, but forgets that what makes a relationship sustainable are the in-betweens. Here are a few examples:

2. Expensive Gifts!

He buys you expensive presents and makes you feel like an absolute queen… when he’s with you. And that tides you over until the next time that you see him. But never does the little thoughtful things that truly make you happy, like bringing you a rose, remembering that you’re out of soymilk when he stops at the market, and buying you your favorite scone when he stops at Starbucks on the way to your house.

3. You go on Vacation

He treats you to nice trips where you have high quality alone time. But when back at home, his availability is inconsistent.

4. You’re His Party Date

Weekend parties are pretty much booked out with him. He loves to show you off as his date, but then seems to forget to spend time with you during the majority of the party, even dancing with other women instead of you.

5. Unless He’s “On,” You’re Out

If it’s not a party, vacation, or event that you are attending with him, you’re out of sight and out of mind. He prefers to refuel, decompress, and “live” alone. I don’t mean “living together.” I mean that he doesn’t include you in life’s day to day - the errands, chores, relaxing, downs, and even workouts. You are not part of his real life. You are just part of his life of the party.

6. He Celebrates With You!

When he has a big win at work, you’re the one who he chooses to share a celebratory bottle of wine with, and maybe a nice dinner. But when he’s struggling and you know it, you’re out of the picture. You are not who he turns to for real support, strength, or love.

7. He Takes You Out, and Shows You Off

But he rarely comes and hangs out at your place or invites you to hang out at his. There always has to be a plan and an activity in order to warrant spending time together.

8. He Tells You He Loves You And Wants A Future With You…

…when he’s drunk or at a party. But cut to reality when you bring it up again, and he makes you feel like you’re pushy and needy.

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