9 Questions All Bisexuals have been Asked when Online Dating
By Top10BestDatingSites Staff
Have you ever thought about how online dating feels for bisexual people? Between threesome offers, misunderstandings, overly direct pick-up lines, and expressed doubt or confusion over sexual orientation – even on the best gay dating websites like Compatible Partners it’s no easy feat to openly display bisexuality online. Take a look at the following questions you’ve probably already asked or are thinking about asking, and let’s agree that moving forward you’ll just not anymore. Yay, go 2016!
“Are you really bisexual?”
Ummm, yeah, just take their word for it. Sure, there are plenty of straight people who claim to be bisexual to seem more attractive to the opposite sex, but those who are genuinely describing their sexual orientation have to deal with constant doubt.
“Aren’t you just being greedy?”
Let’s get this straight (no pun intended), there are over 3 billion people worldwide. No, bisexuals are not attempting to be greedy by having a sexual orientation, nor is this indicative of how often they have sex or how many relationships they’ve had in the past. If anything, bisexuality is about being open to falling in love with the right person, not every person!
“Would you join us for a threesome?”
Being bisexual doesn’t mean that a person is more or less sexually adventurous, or that they are interested in a purely sexual experience over a loving, romantic relationship. Unfortunately, many couples (especially straight men) will hit on bisexual women through online dating sites in the hopes of fulfilling their threesome fantasy.
“So, you’re experimenting?”
It’s difficult for people to understand that bisexuality is not a phase, it’s a sexual orientation no different than being gay or straight. So unless a dating profile specifically says that they are looking to experiment, don’t offend the person you contact with this stereotype.
“Which do you prefer – men or women?”
Everyone’s sexual orientation and bisexuality can range– some bisexuals may be more interested in the opposite sex or feel equally attracted to both or prefer dating a bisexual. Starting off a conversation about which gender or sexual orientation they prefer is invasive. How about getting to know them a little bit before jumping into their sexual and romantic preferences?
“Was your last relationship with a man or a woman?”
When a special someone comes into your life, it’s irrelevant who your ex was, and definitely what their gender was. This is a valid question to ask once you’re getting to know each other and asking about prior relationships, not before.
“Are you confused about your sexuality?”
Most bisexual people have done a lot of soul searching before accepting their sexual orientation, and are the very opposite of confused. Trust us, it’s a lot harder dating someone in the closet! Unless you’re doing a PhD on sexuality, take a big step back from your personal theories on bisexual women psychology. If anything, it’s the perfect way to ensure that the other person gets defensive, or ignores you completely.
“Do you have loads of sex?”
Whoa!!! Hold on there, partner. You should never start a conversation with anyone on a dating site asking about their sex life.Just because both genders are an option, doesn’t mean that every bisexual is leading a wild sex life. It varies, just like it does for every other person, regardless of their sexual orientation.
“So you’re not REALLY gay, then?”
This is one of the most damaging attitudes other gay people can have towards bisexuals, causing bi people to feel like they don’t fit in with the LGBT community and they can’t win either way – not with the straight nor the gay community. How about treating them like a human being with a sexuality that feels attracted to both genders, rather than classifying them as one or the other?
Take a Step Back: Make the Bisexual Dating Game Work
Luckily, openness and understanding of bisexuality is on the rise (finally!) and nowadays, finding the right partner is all about using the right dating sites. If you are bisexual or interested in dating someone who is, take a look at bisexual dating sites or bisexual-friendly sites like Zoosk. You will find that there are plenty of open and knowledgeable people who care about finding the right match more than they care about threesomes. Really, we promise.
Ready to ask all the right questions? Check out our great advice for single lesbians and bisexuals looking for love.
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