8 Important Tips About Senior Sex

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By Ken Solin

The truth about Senior sex

Yes, it’s true. Senior men and women have sex and our libido is still very active. When we go on a date, we think about making a mental connection, but we also ponder about the next phase of any healthy relationship – the sexual connection.

While sex may mean different things to different seniors, intercourse is probable. Assuming a senior couple falls in love, sex will likely become an expectation. Here are 8 tips to help you make sure you’re doing it right:

1. Don’t push for sex on the first date

Nearly every senior woman considers first date sex inappropriate, and men who pressure women for first date sex are rejected, sometimes permanently. Senior women want an emotional connection in place before becoming sexual, and absent that connection, sex just isn’t going to happen. Personally, I definitely don’t advocate for sex too early in a relationship because it brings the entire getting to know you process to a screeching halt. Sex easily overwhelms a relationship if there’s no emotional connection.

2. Remember sex is emotional

I caution senior men to be careful what you wish for. A guy, who thinks he got lucky because he found a woman amenable to first date sex, should think again, because he has probably bitten off more than he can chew and will soon discover that carefree sex isn’t actually free at all. Becoming sexual with a senior woman simply means co-creating a relationship with her that embraces a solid emotional connection. However, the two of you are virtually strangers in terms of knowing each other on a deeper level. These are the sexual rocket ride relationships I caution online dating seniors to avoid.

3. Invest in foreplay

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Senior sex can take a myriad of forms, and there’s no such thing as standard sexual behavior that fits every senior couple. Sure, intercourse is sexual, but so is kissing, massaging, and extended foreplay. There is no such thing as too much foreplay. In fact, an entire evening of just foreplay can produce intense orgasms for both partners. Extended foreplay and shortened intercourse is more satisfying than intercourse alone, and foreplay doesn’t require endurance.

4. Expect performance issues

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Johns Hopkins Medicine claims there are 30 million men in the U.S. suffering with ED issues, but in no way does this preclude men with ED from being sexual. Senior guys, who still believe they can continue to perform sexually by relying entirely on their bodies, frequently learn through experience they need more to perform well. The embarrassment associated with sexual dysfunction is mostly avoidable.

Millions of senior men have benefited from available prescription meds. But there’s more involved in getting and maintaining an erection than a pill alone offers. The deeper the emotional connection the better a man’s sexual performance, and senior men who can connect their hearts with their libidos don’t necessarily require meds. This connection is challenging for men who have effectively ignored it, but it’s a learnable technique that’s more than worth the effort

5. Ease any discomfort

Senior women aren’t aroused as quickly anymore and sex can be painful instead of joyful. But there is an ample number of excellent lubricants available over the counter. And there are also prescription products to ease sexual discomfort.

6. Find that emotional connection

For seniors in particular the emotional/physical sexual connection is critical for great sex, and while we spend much of our lives thinking, we also inhabit our bodies. And it’s the combination of the two that creates healthy sexual relationships. The physical and emotional sexual issues senior men and women experience aren’t necessarily identical, which is why sexual dialogue is critical in relationships.

The sexual power of an emotional connection is beyond measure. Men perform better when they engage their hearts, and their performance is further enhanced when their partner returns their feelings.

When there’s a strong emotional connection, senior women become more aroused and more naturally lubricated. Consider that half of men 40-70 suffer ED issues. Deep, loving feelings between two seniors can avoid some dysfunctional issues in bed. Honest.

7. Be sexual as often as possible

The sexual aspect of a relationship is directly related to physical and emotional wellbeing. When senior couples are creating their sexual relationship it’s critical to tell each other what you want sexually, but these requests should never involve mentioning past relationships. Keep the sexual dialogue current and fresh.

8. Enjoy it!

Sex, is meant to be enjoyed and if you follow the tips in this video you’re more likely to have terrific, and maybe even memorable sex. Safe sex is an absolute. Both partners should be tested before engaging in unprotected sex, no exceptions.

The Gold Standard

A relationship that embodies a strong emotional connection is the gold standard for senior sex. It’s the glue that holds the sexual aspect of a relationship together. The euphoric afterglow from sex is the frosting on the cake, and that blissful feeling creates a desire for more.

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About Ken Solin

Author and columnist Ken Solin is a boomer Dating Expert for The Huffington Post, AARP, and About.com. Solin also writes about boomer sex and relationships. Ken’s new book, The Boomer Guide To Finding True Love Online offers real-life boomer dating solutions based on Ken’s online dating experiences. Learn more about Ken and his dating philosophy.

 

 

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