How to be Sexy, Single, and Christian

Single WomanBy Shawn Orsagh

Recently, I read an article naming the top celebrities who remained virgins until marriage or vowed to stay virgins until they are married. What I loved most about this article was not only where they staying virgins but they were having fun doing. I don’t mean the type of fun where they flirt and tease men. I mean they type of fun where they are owning their sexuality and living life to the fullest. I had to say it made me happy.

Gone are the days were being a virgin or celibate is shameful and something to hide. Gone are the days of “good girls” having to stay at home or walk around wearing turtle necks. Why? Because being a good Christian doesn’t just come from what we look like on the outside but who we are on the inside. It is reflected in how we speak, how we treat others, how we carry ourselves, and the ability to be modest but relatable. Which is why Christian values have more power than ever before. So, how are these famous women doing it and being successful at it?

 

Be Selective in Who You Date

When you chose not to have sex before you get married, you have the power to be more selective in who you date. I am not saying that you can have anyone you want. I am saying that the men you pick, who stay, have a better chance of being quality men who are looking for a long term relationship. That means you waste less of your time. The beauty of being comfortable about being a sexy woman who knows who she is and what she stands for is that you’re secure enough with yourself to focus on career goals, family, and just plain have fun without worrying about what man is in your life. This confidence and ability to handle yourself well is what makes a woman sexy and a catch. A woman who is capable of being whole and happy no matter her relationship status is what separate her from the rest of the thirsty girls out there willing to date any man that pays her attention.

Girl saying no

Be Up Front

This reason being up front is so important is because it lets the person you are dating know what type of relationship you are looking for and what he can expect out of the relationship. I can’t count how many times, in my single life, when I said to a man “I don’t want to have sex” and he did not go running in the opposite direction leaving a trail of dust.

If you want to weed out the men who just want sex say those words. It never fails. It’s hard to be a sheep in wolves clothing when you can’t get the one thing you really want. Every now and then a guy will stick around to see if he will “break you” but I promise they won’t stay long. Also, as a woman with class, you don’t want to be misleading in anyway. Think about it. How hurtful is it when the guy you are dating misleads you in order to get what he wants out of the relationship? Don’t be that girl. Play by your rules and keep your character intact.

Know Your Limits

Every woman is different. God calls us to be unique with our own set of limits that when we cross cause us to feel conviction. That’s because everyone’s mission field is different. It’s like a diet. One diet may work for your friend but when you try the diet it doesn’t work for you. It doesn’t make it a bad diet just not right for you. All that to say just because you don’t feel comfortable doing something doesn’t make it wrong for someone else. Do some self-evaluation and trust your gut instincts. When you figure out what your limits are don’t compromise for anyone because you will only regret it. My mother once wisely told me don’t cross certain lines because some lines you cross you can’t come back from.

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About Erika Ettin

Shawn Orsagh is a professional Life Coach who specializes in dating, couple building, personal growth and christian coaching. She has served as a private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients and has publicly spoken on the topics of Dating Smart, Is He the Right One and Being the Best You. Shawn has a Masters in Counseling, a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, Pre-marital Counseling Certified (PREPARE), and is currently pursuing her Doctorate in Psychology. She is also a member of the Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, American Counseling Association, and the Psi Chi Honor Society. Want to get in touch with Shawn? Visit her website or tweet her directly.

 

 

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