With the way in which dating is portrayed in the media, Christian singles dating often seems like a paradox. Most major motion films these days show couples becoming intimate within the first few dates...
Christian Dating Do’s and Don’ts
Nowadays, with the way in which dating is portrayed in the media, Christian dating often seems like a paradox. Most major films these days show couples becoming intimate within the first few dates. In a society in which we are continually being shown that the physical trumps the emotional, it is easy to get guided toward a path that Christian singles should not be on. The following are some ways in which Christians in the dating world can stay the course, avoiding the temptations so often promoted by Hollywood.
Remove the Guesswork
If you walk into a college mixer, a crowded coffee shop, or a singles bar, other singles will not be walking around with nametags that say, “Hi! I’m George, and I’m a Christian." However, by using an online dating website like Zoosk, you can filter through those who don’t have your same religious convictions, removing all the guesswork. It’s that simple and doesn’t require you to even leave your house.
When it comes to Christian singles dating, there are certain boundaries that you and your date might share. These are great; it is the unshared boundaries that could cause friction in a relationship. Therefore, spending the first several dates deep in conversation is essential. It allows both parties the opportunity to see what they expect out of both their potential significant other and the relationship.
Without clear boundaries, signals may get confused. This can be not only embarrassing and awkward, but also fatal to a relationship.
Avoid Physical Temptations
One might think that this topic goes without saying, but it is often overlooked. To avoid the deep desires (at least at the beginning), follow this great tip from Belief Net:
“On the first date dress conservatively because, remember, the attention must not be drawn to any part of your physical body. When you dress naked, you leave nothing to the imagination and you cause him never to tap into the real person that you are!"
It may sound juvenile, but it is sound advice.
A sure way to avoid the issue of whether or not you are dressing conservatively is to plan an outdoor event on a cold day—even better, go ice-skating!
Seek Like-Minded Advice
When it comes to Christian singles dating advice, there is no one better to ask than those you trust and surround yourself with. If you are truly trying to thrive in a Christian relationship—abstaining from sex—ask your parents and elders for dating advice.
With sex out of the equation, there is nothing embarrassing about seeking advice from like-minded, Christian individuals in established, successful relationships.
Bring Up Religion Early
There is no better way to express what you expect from a relationship than to bring up your faith early in the relationship—maybe not scare them away on the first date, but sooner rather than later. You don’t want to create any misunderstandings and your faith is an essential part of your life. There are different levels of what people think is acceptable. Don’t assume that you and your date are on the same level. Feel confident enough to share your religious views and beliefs.
Be the perfect gentleman or lady on your first date; gauge the other person’s expectations. If they are not made clear within the first few dates, set aside a day to establish boundaries, verbally layout expectations, and listen to each other.
If you are tired of being a single Christian, make sure your net is not too far cast. If you are a Christian and you haven’t tried to date other Christian singles, try narrowing your scope. It may be that you just haven’t found someone that shares the same expectations out of life that you have.
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