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6 Reasons for Radio Silence After Date #1
You thought that you two had a wonderful time -- and then you waited. After a while, maybe you sent your own initial message, or tried their cell phone. After a few days, you realized that the reply was never coming. Many singles drive themselves crazy trying to figure out why there’s no follow up call after the first date. In fact, it usually boils down to a few simple reasons.
1.You didn’t look like they expected
Take some time to look through the photos on your online dating profile. We all like to show off our good side, but are your pictures an accurate representation of you? Are you sure you aren’t picking the ones which downplay characteristics you don’t like about yourself? Say you've always been sensitive about being unusually tall, so you select photos in which you look short. Not only is this going to turn off any guy who wanted to meet a shorter woman, but it will also mean that you won't get interested messages from men looking for a tall one! Presto: self-sabotage. Many women in turn prefer a man who has a few extra pounds, and may swipe straight past a guy with a more muscular body.
A good way to avoid this issue happening in the date? Use a dating site like Zoosk which offers video chat, and chat online by webcam prior to your first date.
2.You talked about your ex too much
It can be easy to start talking about an ex for two reasons. Firstly, you're already mentally comparing your date to your ex. Secondly, you're looking for reassurance that this new guy is nothing like him. But for most people it can be tiresome. Even if the topic of ex-partners comes up, you should just skirt the issue politely. There will be plenty of time to share your past relationships if you make it further down the line.
3. You stumbled across a deal-breaker
Most people have one or two little things that they just can't get past: being a smoker, having kids, voting Republican. It can be easy to stumble on these things and not know it, especially if your date was trying to be polite. One of the best features of dating sites like eHarmony is the ability to mentioned your deal-breakers on sign up, which results in more compatible matches from day one. If you suspect this may be the reason why there’s no date #2, don’t take it personally. If we all wanted the same things from a relationship-life sure would be boring!
4. They already found someone else
Let’s be real here. Many people are dating more than one person through online dating sites at the same time, It could be as simple as bad timing. She went on a good first date with you, but a great third date with another guy the day before. Shake it off and move onto the next by creating a quick and simple profile at HowAboutWe, where you can get a date as soon as your lunch break.
5. They were looking for something different
People use online dating for all kinds of relationships. If you’re looking for something casual, and your date is thinking about putting down roots it can be easy to tell from a first date. The same is true the other way around, if you’re mentioning your plans for the summer and they aren’t interested in planning past the weekend. One way to avoid this problem is by joining an online dating site which has mainly members with the same goals. It’s not an exact science, but EliteSingles is known for compatibility, while, other sites may attract more casual hook-ups.
6.They weren’t ready to be dating
Maybe he got busy at work. Maybe she got back with her ex. Maybe -- and this does unfortunately happen – they weren’t actually single yet at all. Online dating makes it extremely easy for someone to jump into the dating pool. This accessibility is one of the great things about online dating, but some people jump in before they're ready. So before you decide that it's all about you (and stress over it), consider that it might actually be all about your date.
The best thing you can do is get back in the game. Open up an account on one of the leading dating sites and try, try again! And remember, you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.